Monday, June 25, 2007

Orgasms During Childbirth

*edited below*

Yeah, you heard me right. Orgasms during childbirth. As in, some women have them while they are in labor.

When my doula told me this at our first homevisit last week, I was shocked to say the least. And, frankly, a bit incredulous. I mean, I've been through childbirth once and, though there was definitely a lot of crying out on my part, I was certainly not crying out in pleasure.

Yet, apparently, some do. Cry out in pleasure, that is.

Though I didn't know this, women produce sexual hormones in childbirth. And some women can actually experience their contractions as orgasms.

Don't believe me? Read all about it here.

I am now on a personal mission to have an orgasm during labor.

Because, dude, that is so. frigging. cool.

Edited to add: While I agree that there is a certain grossness factor to the idea of orgasms during labor (OK, a very large grossness factor), I am also quite fascinated by the idea that birthing can actually be such an intensely emotional and spiritual experience that a woman would actually feel pleasure while laboring.

For anyone who is currently pregnant or planning on having more children, I highly recommend getting a copy of the video Birth as We Know It. This video has the most inspiring and beautiful images of childbirth that I have ever seen. Unlike the horror of watching cable shows on birthing, which always seem to focus on what goes wrong in childbirth, this video shows women in labor who are having wonderful experiences - including a woman who actually has orgasms during her labor. And yes, they show this on the DVD! Later, she is interviewed about the experience and hearing her describe her labor is simply amazing. I couldn't get through the video without crying. It was just stunning to see someone that in tune with her body and her baby. And while I thought the whole idea was really gross before (and still do to some degree), I actually have a lot of more respect for it now after hearing her interviewed. Because I don't think it's really about trying to have an orgasm during labor (I mean, I can get those any old day!), but rather, it's about harnessing the energy in your body and re-directing it away from pain by focusing on the pure ecstacy and happiness of giving new life to a little being. I think that the orgasm part just sort of happens to occur for some women as a result of this type of "conscious" birthing.

I know it sounds weird, but I guess you just have to watch the video. And believe me, this kind of birthing is no easy feat in my estimation. I have all the respect in the world for women who can birth so peacefully and beautifully. (In contrast to myself, who was screaming for an epi after 10 hours.)

Oh, and I was totally not paid to recommend this DVD. I just really, really think it's a great video.



Anonymous chelle said...

And I was content to merely survive labour :)

2:12 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Um. Ew.

I can't even imagine that...But I's possible...

But I'm tainted! I haven't been able to have a good one SINCE childbirth...ugh.

4:14 AM  
Blogger Shortie said...

Well goodie for THOSE people, I was not one. LOL

4:22 AM  
Blogger Self-Proclaimed Supermom said...

I wish that would have happened to me ...tee hee :)

5:33 AM  
Blogger MsAbcMom said...

Wow! I guess I went about it all wrong when I went through childbirth . That would have been a much better sensation than what I experienced. (maybe a bit more embarrassing in front of my mom though!) Good luck with this mission!

5:41 AM  
Blogger metro mama said...

Hard to believe, that!

6:27 AM  
Blogger Christina said...

Yeah, I had nothing like that. But I will say pushing felt vaguely good compared to everything before it.

6:57 AM  
Blogger Jodi said...

I have heard of that, but find it incredibly unbelieavable! I guess that would explain women who have 12 kids, huh?

8:39 AM  
Blogger mamatulip said...

Hey, maybe that's why women keep on having babies... didn't happen to me, but I hope it happens for you. :)

8:50 AM  
Blogger Lawyer Mama said...

Um, ok. Goodie for them. I'll have to go read the article.

9:56 AM  
Blogger Mrs. Chicky said...

Just another thing that will NEVER happen to me. Those women probably glowed throughout their entire pregnancy, too.

9:56 AM  
Blogger Jenn said...

Since I'll be having my second c-section I'll never know the pleasure or the pain on childbirth. But if I was having natural...i'd totally wanna try for TAT!

1:29 PM  
Blogger Damselfly said...

OK, but is it a 36-hour orgasm?

3:08 PM  
Anonymous andi said...

Man, some women really are bitches aren't they? So unfair. Both my births were the furthest from that possible.

3:56 PM  
Blogger Surviving Motherhood said...

wow, I have never heard about this before, and here I was thinking a 'good' labour was one which lasted less than 12 hours and only required one set of drugs.

I Just found your blog through the blogger chicks blogroll and I am hooked. It is full of interesting, thought provoking stuff, can I be you when I grow up?

1:27 AM  
Blogger Nadine said...

Orgasms? I wish that happened to me! I thought the whole thing was too painful to enjoy. That must be weird to watch for the husband. And the doctor.

4:45 AM  
Blogger Guinevere Meadow said...

I had never heard of that before. Interesting!

6:09 AM  
Blogger bubandpie said...

My labour-and-delivery experience with the Pie was really a positive one, but one thing I regret is the amount of self-recrimination I gave myself over my inability to relax through the contractions. I was sure I had been able to relax my body while in a pitocin-induced labour with the Bub, but at a certain point the second time around I just could. not. help. fighting every contraction with all my strength.

Then the nurse came and checked me and told me I had dilated from 3 to 9 cm in 90 minutes. So yeah - THAT's why I was in so much pain, and all that tensing up obviously in no way prevented the contractions from doing what they were meant to do.

So yeah - I just wish I had been able to relax more about the whole not being able to relax thing. :)

6:51 AM  
Anonymous dana said...

Eew, is how I feel about that. I just can't imagine it like that. It's quite strange to me!

8:59 AM  
Blogger Mrs. Incredible said...

I was ROBBED! Twice! No orgasm unless I'm doing the orgasm thing wrong, too? I feel so inadequate. I was just proud their heads weren't too squishy.

12:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I've heard of this, and I think it's a little creepy!

6:02 PM  
Blogger Slackermommy said...

Damn! That didn't happen for me. My orgasms take work.

6:38 AM  
Blogger Slackermommy said...

Sorry, one more thing because I can't stop thinking about this. Can you imagine if every woman had an O during childbirth how over populated the world would be?

6:40 AM  
Blogger Jodi said...

Yeah, I went and checked out that website and I just find it creepy. I'm sorry. It just creeps me out. To each her own though. Good luck with that!

9:37 AM  
Blogger Kyla said...

Seriously? That happens? I don't know what I think about it. But kudos to you, MOTR, I'm really excited to see how your birth goes this time around!!

3:45 PM  
Blogger said...

Ya, I've heard of that. There's no way that would have been possible. I had a water birth at home, fully trying to bring in peace and relaxation and did a pretty good job (watching my birth video for the first time even I was surprised whem my daughter "arrived"-- I made no sounds and made it look effortless which it so was not). And I still did not put on a public display of... well, you know. And I don't think I would have wanted to. I can't imagine looking at my child when they were older and saying, "You gave me..." Ya, I can't even finish that sentence. Think of it: it's sick!

10:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well I know I will try it. Not in front of my Doctor or Midwife but while I am in labour I am going to induce orgasim in privacy, simply to relax me - God, when I'm stressed its the best feeling so why not! Some of you don't sound comfortable wih your sexuality - sorry to say!

11:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Unfortunately, American society has trained us to believe that sex is bad and that our bodies should not be explored. Masturbation for example, is typically thought of as bad rather than a method of discovery for ourselves. A simpler solution than telling children not to is to redirect them to a private place such as their bedrooms. That way they can be comfortable with their bodies. The same applies to childbirth, we have been conditioned to think that childbirth is such a horrible experience... that, that is what we expect. But, childbirth is one of the most natural things a woman can do. If we relax our bodies and open our minds we can have very relaxed and very empowering childbirths, and orgasmic childbirth doesn't necessarily mean that you have to have an orgasm to have an orgasmic childbirth... it is more about having the most euphoric experience of your life. Just being so one with yourself and your child. I suggest checking out some of these sites to get more information and gain a better understanding,;;; . I wish I had the information I have now before I had my two children. My eldest is five and my youngest is 20 months. Both were born in a hospital, and I was detached and wanted to do nothing but sleep and be left alone after I had my children. I am currently pregnant with my third child and hope to have a much better birthing experience with much thanks to doing just a little more research than the doctors give. Also, I will be happy to finally have the experience of having a natural birth (no medication, which I had I.V. meds. and an epidural with both of my first two.). I am not trying to push this for anyone, I just hope that more women can be better informed that our bodies belong to us and we have complete control and can do anything we set our minds too. And my hope is women will be more informed that they do have options and can be very comfortable during the most joyous time of their lives. I myself know that there are circumstances where a hospital birth can't be avoided. My second child was born two months premature, but my doctor says he sees nothing that would indicate it happening again. Also, that the baby is fine and healthy; so there is no reason for me not to have a natural homebirth. Please, just remember every woman has options and should be well informed of all of them. Find the method that is best suited for you and prepare. It is the most incredible thing to bring life into the world. Be Blessed.

11:48 PM  
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2:12 AM  
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6:50 AM  
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12:38 AM  

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