Tuesday, February 13, 2007

I got nothin' against your penis, but...

I’ve been thinking that we might want to stop at 2. Two kids that is. I don’t know if I want to go through pregnancy again. Yeah, I’m a lightweight. Whatever.

Yesterday I puked up some blood. Nothing serious. I guess that’s what happens when you’re puking all the time.

But, but, but….[insert whiny voice here]

I just don’t want to go through this morning sickness thing again. Evah! I mean, I puked up BLOOD. Gah!

And I know I don’t have it as bad as many others have had it. I’m reasonably sure I’ll feel better by 20 weeks like with Little Guy. But still. I really, really think that two kids are enough for me.

Anyway. I’m sure you’ve heard enough about my vomititis issues already.

Moving on.

The actual point of this post is this: I’ve been obsessively thinking about birth control lately. As in, what kind of birth control should we get on after the baby comes because I really, really don’t want to take any chances.

After looking into all my options, I’ve narrowed it down to one:


OK, maybe not immediately. Perhaps we can use condoms for a while. But eventually, I want him to get one. It’s the least he could do, right?

We’ve talked about it several times and he’s made his opinion known. I think his responses have included something to the effect of:


“no way in hell”

“you wish”

Nevertheless, I’ve continued to insist it’s our best option. So today he e-mails me at work with a link to this article.

Research links vasectomy with higher dementia risk

And his e-mail says: “There goes your idea! Ha!”

As if a little dementia is going to stop me from signing him up for a snip snip. Puhleeease.

He's going to have to do better than that. I mean, the mind’s gonna go eventually anyway, right? Right?


Blogger Oh, The Joys said...

K went RUNNING for the snip snip when Rooster was only three months old. NO MORE!! Whheeeeeeeeeee - (and the sex is free of contraptions, gels and whatnot!)

5:12 PM  
Blogger Mary-LUE said...

I just saw that headline before looking at this post! What a riot! My husand has a vasectomy when our daugher was about 9 months old, I think. When I saw the headline my first thought was that he could have it reversed AFTER I go through menopause.

I'm just going to have to make sure he writes long complex sentences, does sudoku and whatever else research says is good at lessening your chances of dementia!

I'm so sorry about your sick tummy. How far along are you?

5:25 PM  
Blogger metro mama said...

I am going to be pushing for one eventually. You're right, it's the least!

5:33 PM  
Anonymous Dee Dee said...

My hubby got one when our number 2 was a few months old. No nagging needed.

5:43 PM  
Anonymous chelle said...

HAHAHA! So not letting my husband see that link! I figure I am the one with the pregnancies and the birth and the breastfeeding the LEAST he can do is get a little snippy snippy!

5:45 PM  
Anonymous Much More Than A Mom said...

Hehehe. Nice try.

I really hope you're feeling better soon!

6:40 PM  
Anonymous mamatulip said...

Yup. The Big Snip is the only way to go. I'll take dementia over a tubal any day.

I've been thinking of you lately -- hang in there. I know it's rough...sending you non-barfy vibes. xo

6:53 PM  
Anonymous Karly said...

Yes, but tell him that being a little crazy is much more likely to happen with THREE kids as opposed to TWO and he just better get his ass to the doc. ;)

7:29 PM  
Blogger The Flip Flop Mamma! said...

From what I've heard, it's way easier for men to get the snip snip than the woman. They have a faster recovery time (2 little days!) and less complications can occur. The men I've talked to about it, about 5 men, all said it was no big deal. Frozen peas down there for a couple days, and off to work!!

7:36 PM  
Anonymous annenahm.com said...

Strange about the dementia with vasectomy - I read it is a rare type of dementia with loss of language skills. I guess if you were going to argue men think with their weiners, you could suppose that the vas deferens has some type of word component.

7:51 PM  
Blogger Mommy off the Record said...

OTJ: woo-hoo for gel-free sex!

ML: I like your idea of just having him do a little sudoku. LOL.

(I'm 13 weeks along.)

MT: thanks for the non-barfy vibes :)

Karly: totally.

FFM: Frozen peas? I'm totally making a mental note. LOL

8:17 PM  
Blogger Red Rollerskate said...

Yeah, you've got good reason to feel that way. I have an idea! Tell him NO SEX UNTIL YOU FEEL COMFY ABOUT THIS. And you will only feel comfy once he is snipped.

I'm thinking the dementia won't feel so important, then.

9:16 PM  
Blogger Janet a.k.a. "Wonder Mom" said...

Good luck.

I know my hubs wouldn't snip if his penis depended on it.

5:21 AM  
Blogger Janet a.k.a. "Wonder Mom" said...

Good luck.

I know my hubs wouldn't snip if his penis depended on it.

5:22 AM  
Blogger Em said...

LOL...I went under the knife. And it got me a ton of sympathy from my wife. For like a whole day.

Hope you feel good enough to enjoy a nice Valentine's Day.

6:36 AM  
Blogger Dirty Birdie said...

Aparently the dementia has already set in if he thinks he's going to get out of a vasectomy.

9:02 AM  
Blogger Mrs. Chicky said...

Tell him if he doesn't get the snip that he'll lose a part of his brain anyway when you bash him with a frying pan.


You could tell him that science has also linked dementia with extreme sperm build-up. No sex for you! I find that one works wonders for whatever you need.

9:18 AM  
Anonymous TB said...

Vasectomy is going to be our ultimate birth control choice as well. It just seems so much easier than any other option. And in order to get Jeff to agree to it, I've promised semi-regular blow jobs for life. Okay, not really but I would if I had to.

9:55 AM  
Blogger Christina said...

Yeah, my husband saw that story last night, and I told him, "Nice try. You're still getting it done."

I've been pregnant twice, had my insides cut open once (and hopefully not twice), and been the one on hormonal birth control. His turn to step up and do something for both of us. It's a minor surgery with few complications. And it means no more kids, without worrying about an oops.

10:10 AM  
Blogger radioactive girl said...

The study is flawed. It only used a group of 100 people. My husband and I always figured he would do that when we were done, but then I had to have a c-section, so I just had my tubes tied while they were in there. My husband lucked out, but I have heard from most of my girlfriends that their husbands didn't mind the surgery so much and that it wasn't as big of a deal as they had expected.

I hope you start feeling better really soon! My father in law used to always say "keep your eye on the prize" when I was feeling not so great when I was pregnant. It annoyed me when he said it, so I'm not sure why I just wrote it for you. Sorry....

10:43 AM  
Blogger Jodi said...

I don't blame you one bit, this is exactly why I have 2 children and a husband who had a snippty-do-da when Connor was 3 months old. I am the WORST pregnant person EVER. I was sick as a dog through both pregancies, I threw up until I was 8 months pregnant with Trent, and had horrible deliveries. So I decided that 2 is enough. And it's just right. And the older they get the more I am glad I have just the 2 because they keep me hopping!

I hope you are feeling better soon! Have you tried mint tea? ginger? Saltines? Altoids? All of those things helped me some. But, then again, I still DID puke. So never mind. Sending you MORE non-barfy vibes! :)

11:19 AM  
Blogger Damselfly said...

Blood?! That is some serious ralph.

You could tell him he'd get dementia anyway -- with all those kids running around and a wife who's lost too much blood to look after them!

12:36 PM  
Blogger Groovy Lady said...

Even though my husband offered to get snipped I ended up having a tubal. This was after my GYN recommended it since my husband didn't know beyond his father's health history, and there is some concern with a connection between vasectomies, prostate cancer and heredity.

Of course my GYN is a man.. so... *wonders*

Hope you feel better soon!

2:24 PM  
Blogger Nicole said...

We did the big V. My thing was it was finally HIS turn to get something done to THAT area! My hubs did it. I'm thinking that is works since we don't have anything in the oven. HA.

2:35 PM  
Blogger Catch said...

After I had my third baby I said...no vasectomy = no sex! And I meant it! Didnt take him long to head off to the Doc. Most guys are nuts anyway so how could you tell if they had dementia??? LMAO

12:26 AM  
Blogger Nikki said...

Drug him and then take him to the dr for the snip snip...it'll be okay, and he may actually thank you for it later (yeah right)

I didn't wait for hubby to do the snip snip - I got my tubes tied...I mean, my boyfriend could get me pregant right (yes I'm joking)

10:27 AM  
Blogger Slackermommy said...

I'd tell him that there will be no nookie until he's snipped. It's a minor procedure done in the doctor's office. I highly recommend it for birth control you can trust. I got pregnant with my fourth while using the Nuvaring. I told hubby he better get fixed if he ever planned on having sex with me again. He made an appointment that day.

7:40 PM  
Anonymous AdventureDad said...

You guys have a a great relationship since YOU can decide about tying his penis in a knot:-)

We're debating whether to have more kids as well. Last pregnancy was bad but the delivery was great (is there such a thing as great delivery?) I will not use condoms. Unless I get divorced and start hunting 20-year old blonds with big boobs to prove I'm in a midlife crisis. I hate them. Sure, you have have sex twice as long but it's like showering with clothes on.

Nice weekend


1:25 AM  
Blogger Gingers Mom said...

My hubby is getting the big V in April. I am giddy about it. You squeeze a baby out of your hoo-ha (twice!!) and give your body over to your child and have to live with hemmroids and stretch marks. THE LEAST he can do is a little snip snip. Come on, a little sting in your crotch and then hold a bag of ice to it for a few days. Pulllllease!

10:16 AM  
Blogger Jenn said...

I agree with whoever said the thing about holding back the sex.....and then playing the two pregnancy cards. Don't forget to mention ALL THE PUKING YOU DID FOR HIM AND HIS CHILDREN!!! *cry*

The crying adds a good touch.

12:55 PM  
Blogger kfk said...

Just tell him you've changed your mind and want 12 kids. That might make him change his mind. But yeah, a little memory loss is nothing compared to all the losses of other functions a mother has to go through.

5:16 PM  
Blogger Jill said...

My husband is also resistant to this idea. I like to tell people that the reason for his refusal is that he wants a back up plan in case I die and he decides to start a new family with a trophy wife. He hates it when I say this. . . .but apparently not enough to get snipped.

7:04 PM  
Blogger Kevin said...

I would have no problem getting the snippy snip done. I'm getting tired of the condoms...they're just such an interruption when things is cookin' which, quite frankly, ain't all that often. The last time we were about to get busy, I went to put one on and found out they had expired. None of them were usable. Wouldn't have had that problem had I had the big V.

After our last kids (twins, 8 years ago) my wife went on a different brand of pill and the sex, ANY kind of sex, disappeared (with a CAPITAL D, I, and S) for 2 years. If I were you, I'd stay away from those things.

8:49 PM  
Anonymous Moobs said...

Soooo uncomfortable with this conversation. Can't walk now for having my legs crossed.

11:09 AM  
Blogger jo(e) said...

My husband had vasectomy after we both turned 40. I went with him and watched the whole procedure -- it's really quite simple. He was in pain for a weekend -- had to keep a bag of frozen peas in his lap -- but after that, he was fine.

And it is WONDERFUL not to worry about birth control any more. Sex anywhere, anytime ....

My husband had been very squeamish about the idea of the vasectomy but now he is very happy he went through with it.

4:17 PM  
Blogger Heidi said...

LOL!!!! I hear ya I told my hubby that we could just adopt the next kid! I've done the blood thing a few times this pregnancy also -yuk!!

8:39 PM  
Anonymous L.A. Daddy said...


2:22 PM  
Blogger Felicia said...

Whatever you decide, make HIM responsible for the birth control. My hubby isn't keen on vasectomies, although he had me research it for him. But I told him a couple of years ago that I had been the responsible one for 12 years of our relationship, and now it was time for him to step it up!

8:16 AM  

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