Thursday, September 20, 2007

Ah, the silly things women say to each other

A woman toting two kids behind her walked past me as I sat on a bench breastfeeding the baby. As she passed me, she said:

"Doesn't it just make you feel like a cow sometimes?"
Uh. No, I really never thought of myself as a cow. Until you said that.

Thanks a lot, beeyotch.

The incident just kinda left me wanting to go open a Facebook account and post a picture of myself breastfeeding shirtless.


Blogger Adventures In Babywearing said...


I would have said "At least I don't LOOK like one." No, I wouldn't have said it. But I would have thought it!


9:52 AM  
Blogger Lawyer Mama said...

Beyatch is right. Damn!

Bill Maher pissed me off enough to post a breastfeeding picture I never thought would see the light of day!

10:06 AM  
Blogger Mommy off the Record said...

AIB: I LOVE that comeback.

LM: Coincidentally, I just commented on your post! I love your boob shot. Very nice.

Speaking of which, I think we should pick a day and then all post pictures of ourselves breasfedding on our blogs as a sign of protest. Anybody with me? It could be the Big MommyBlogger Boob-a-Thon.

10:16 AM  
Anonymous my minivan is faster than yours said...

I didn't nurse my kids, yet I still think the boob-a-thon sounds like a rockin' good time!

10:38 AM  
Blogger Amanda said...

Made me post breastfeeding shots too.
I never ceased to be amazed by how many people accentuate what they perceive to be the universal negatives of pregnancy, parenting and marriage.
Cow my ass.

10:49 AM  
Blogger crazymumma said...


I wonder if she had a hard time with breastfeeding? Lack of support...fussy baby...who knows.

I for one get all soft and squishy when I see a baby being breastfed. I'd be one of those creepy women who would pass you and say something like "aw...I miss that...."

Very soft and loving memories of a soft and loving time.

11:50 AM  
Blogger Kyla said...

Was it said in like a I've been there too and I'm kidding with ya kind of way? Or just a bitchy way? LOL. It makes a difference I think.

Facebook and Bill Maher can suck it.

1:11 PM  
Anonymous andi said...

I used to joke with kid #1 that I was the Moomy. I would never, ever call another woman a cow though. That is just nasty.

1:13 PM  
Blogger Mommy off the Record said...

Kyla: I don't think she *meant* to be bitchy so I have to cut her a little slack. I'm assuming she was saying it like, "yeah i've been there too and i felt like a cow like you must feel like a cow now..."

But the thing is that she was tall, thin, made up, and looked like she had more than 2 hours of sleep last night. Whereas I was 3 1/2 weeks postpartum, still wearing maternity clothes, and feeling frumpy. So it was hard to really feel the bond between us.

Plus, no one should equate women with cows - even in jest! (Now I am going to search through my previous posts and make sure I never did that... j/k)

2:04 PM  
Blogger Feener said...

gosh, timely with the whole bill maher comment.

5:44 PM  
Blogger theotherbear said...

She probably walked away and wondered how to get her foot out of her mouth.

7:30 PM  
Blogger JaniceNW said...

I'm with you. My mother used to make comments like that. I hate when on Thirtysomething Hope said the exact same thing! I never felt like a cow and it is quite disrespectful for anyone to imply than feeding our children is a bovine thing!!!!(If you are too young to remember 30something NEVER mind).

7:45 PM  
Anonymous chelle said...


I am in for a boob a thon :)

8:24 PM  
Anonymous Andrea said...

Except you can say more than "moo".

Like "fuck off!"

That woman is a cow. And she's probably patting herself on the back for her "clever" comment and is likely on the staff at Facebook anyway.

6:21 AM  
Anonymous Andrea said...

As for the breastfeeding pic, can we wait about four months? And I can't breastfeed (medically unable to) but I can photoshop.

6:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Why do people always mention cows? All mammals give milk. It's why we're called mammals. Whenever I see a breastfeeding baby, I say "What a lucky baby! All babies should be so lucky."
I was always shocked by how many people would smile at my baby, and then look shocked and horrified when they realized he was eating. For heaven's sake people, he's just eating.

8:54 AM  
Blogger Shortie said...

Was she making fun of you?? Or was she just joking around cause she TOO breast feeds? I'm shocked if she was being mean.... that's just rude and nasty?!

9:21 AM  
Blogger Pumpkin said...

Good grief........did the filter between her brain and mouth malfunction completely????

Some women can be so rude!!!

You rock hunny!!!!

9:57 AM  
Blogger Jen M. said...

Good God. I would have wanted to say, "No. It makes me feel like a dirty whore."

Or something, anything to make her feel weird.

8:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I must admit that I have said that about myself before. I am happily breastfeeding my second child and hope to for quite a while longer. I have felt like a cow - especially when I pump - but not in the sense of "big, fat..." Try to be a little easier on her. I am sorry on her behalf that her comment made you feel bad. Moms feeding their babies, bovine or otherwise, are beautiful and if I had to guess, she would likely agree.

12:57 PM  

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