Thursday, October 26, 2006

Second Fiddle

I get that when you have a baby, you really are put second. No one cares about you anymore. They just care about the baby. It's like when I go visit my parents - it's totally obvious who they're all excited to see when we arrive and they quickly shove me aside, make a grab for Little Guy, and whisk him away with a flurry of hugs and kisses, leaving me at the door holding the diaper bag.

Yes, immediately after I had Little Guy, it became clear that I was no longer important. When he's around, all eyes are on him. And, really, that's how it should be. I'm OK with it.

But is it too much to ask that when you take a picture of me with Little Guy, that you...

get my whole...

friggin' head

in the shot?

I mean is it really that much to ask? My baby book wants to know.


Anonymous K said...

aw. yeah. no kidding sister. I hear you.

except i'm too big to fit in the pictures. ( I mean BIG )

4:43 AM  
Blogger Janet a.k.a. "Wonder Mom" said...

Are those pictures that your in-laws took? Taht's what they do to me.

5:09 AM  
Blogger metro mama said...

Yep, I have precious few shots of Jane and all of me.

5:18 AM  
Blogger Linus said...

At least you're in the pictures - 98% of the pictures in my kids' books don't have me in them. There's plenty of my husband and the kids, grandparents and the kids, aunts, uncles, cousins and the kids - I told my husband he needs to get better with the picture taking or my boys will grow up one day and wonder why I was never around!!

5:20 AM  
Blogger Beck said...

HAHA! My in-laws cut my head off in pictures too. Since I'm just the incubator for the Beloved Grandchildren, what need have I for a head?
I like using my baby to hide any fat spots while I'm having my picture, like "Hang on! I'm going to move the baby in front of my stomach." They're great camo.

6:41 AM  
Anonymous wordgirl said...

Well...the half of your head that I CAN see looks very beautiful. Still...I'm blinded by the baby gorgeousness. I would insist on a full-headed shot if I were you. It's the least they can give you. For posterity and all.

6:44 AM  
Blogger Mrs. Chicky said...

I'm sorry, I didn't realize you were in those pictures at all. I was too busy looking at the cute kid.

6:45 AM  
Blogger Not-so-Sage Wisdom said...

How dare you?

Don't you recognise that you are merely the vessel and once that vessel has been emptied of the new life, it may as well just be cast away into nothingness? What selfishness in a mother. Really... :)

Seriously, I've joked that I could not show up at in-law family gatherings and have my daughter go on the hip of a 6 foot-tall man with dreads and no one would notice.

7:07 AM  
Anonymous chelle said...

awwww you totally need to get a wide angle lens!! Those pictures look so perfect besides the chopped off mom that is! We do not have a lot of pics with me and Becca because I am usually the one with the camera!

7:27 AM  
Blogger Damselfly said...

Oh, geez. Looks like something my in-laws would do to me. They are so ga-ga over the baby he's all they seem to think about.

7:40 AM  
Blogger Jenn said...

I'm so bad, I hate getting my picture taken....but yea...when I WANT to be in there then it would be nice if I was actually TOTALLY in the picture...ya know? Is that your husband's fancy camera work?

7:48 AM  
Blogger sunshinedaily4me_wuz_here said...

I understand your frustration...and that is really kind of funny...but dang, your kiddo is so cute, I kind of did forget that you weren't in the picture. He does take after his mother after all! And I'm sorry, but you do NOT look like you even need to step foot in a gym - you look great! (well, the part I can see - haha)

8:02 AM  
Blogger Mommy off the Record said...

These were pics that my husband took. Usually, I'm holding the camera and taking all the pictures so I really must have the pictures he takes turn out well, you know, or I'll have NO pictures of me and Little Guy. And yet, so often the pics turn out like this. Grrr.

My in-laws, though, are SO much worse. They are ALWAYS cutting my head off. Always. I wish I had some of those pictures because those are really the gems. You'll see Little Guy looking as cute as can be and then the crease of my neck and my chin in the corner of the shot. Ugh. So pisses me off.

Glad to hear I'm not the only one that gets cut off in pictures like this!

8:08 AM  
Blogger Celebrate Woo-Woo said...

I think I can count on my hands the amount of pictures of me with my children that are in my possession. I'm the one that is picture-crazy, so I'm always the one taking random pictures just to capture the moment;>

8:14 AM  
Anonymous ali said...

i have millions of half-shots of me!!

9:21 AM  
Blogger PunditMom said...

Yup. As a matter of fact, it is too much to ask! Most of the time, I don't even get in the photos since I'm the one with the camera, and my husband acts as if I'm asking for a million dollars if I ask to have a pic taken with R.

But on the upside, then no one can see the dark circles under my eyes or the fact that I rarely wear makeup anymore!

10:21 AM  
Anonymous Momish said...

Happens to me too, but I take such awful photos, that I don't mind. In fact, the shots turn out better when my head is cut out. Otherwise, I'd most likely throw them out. Ugh! But, I can see why you are frustrated! You don't have those worries! And, little guy is just too adorable!

10:35 AM  
Blogger jennster said...

LMFAO- well who needs your head when you have a kid?!

10:40 AM  
Blogger Tracie said...

How true!! I have lots of great pictures of Katarina and half of my head just like those. Even my very own husband does this to me.

11:10 AM  
Blogger carrie said...

Oh he is soooo cute! And so are you, what I can see of you anyway! :)

I think it's a conspiracy, really I do.


11:56 AM  
Anonymous sweatpantsmom said...

Let's face it - once you have kids you just become the old shoe. When someone says, "Can I take your picture?" what they really mean is, "Can you move your ass just a little more out of the frame?"

My husband always says that years from now, anyone looking back on our family photos will be convinced that our children were raised parentless.

That's what Photoshop is for. Have a few good head shots of yourself ready to splice into all the photos.

12:38 PM  
Blogger Stephanie said...


I can never find a picture of myself to use for anything, because no one ever takes a picture of me. It's like those Sauve commercials about the invisible mom feeling.

12:46 PM  
Anonymous Andrea said...

I have actually been shoved aside, asked, "When can we come visit Gabe again? And you and Mike, of course," and not hugged hello for a few hours after their arrival. I'm an afterthought.

Same with me about the pictures. The only ones with all of me and all of the kid are when I was pregnant.

12:48 PM  
Blogger kfk said...

Ever since becoming a mama I can't stand to see myself in pictures.

1:38 PM  
Blogger Pattie said...

but you have such nice teeth......


At least you HAVE some pictures of yourself....decapitated or not. I don't think I have one of me with the kids in the last two years.

2:02 PM  
Blogger tiggerprr said...

So funny! :) You really should protest!

2:53 PM  
Blogger Christina said...

LOL! At least you're partially in the pictures. I'm always the one taking the pictures, so in the photographic record I've barely existed the past two years.

3:50 PM  
Blogger crazymumma said...

There were no decent pictures of me until we won a family photo session with a photographer....

That being said, I think the lower half of your face is super!

4:21 PM  
Blogger Red Rollerskate said...

He looks cute. Wait, so do you!

6:11 PM  
Blogger Mary-LUE said...

Um, yeah, it isn't too much to ask. The half I can see looks great, though! ;)

6:15 PM  
Blogger Lawyer Mama said...

Baaaahaaaaaaa! I'm laughing because my husband and I just noticed the other day that we only have ONE photo of him in the hospital with the baby where you can actually see his whole face!

6:19 PM  
Blogger Carmi said...

My favorite is when you show up to visit the grandparents, and they grab the kid at the door and run inside, leaving you standing there like an idiot, holding all the doo-dads of childhood.

Sometimes, I think becoming grandparents sapped the logic out of their brains. Either that or their photographic capabilities.

6:48 PM  
Blogger Catch said...

haha, this is so funny! Little guy is the cutest baby boy !!! No wonder they all grab for him! Im sorry they forget to include your whole face in the pictures lol.

11:42 PM  
Blogger Ruth Dynamite said...

At least you're in the picture! For me it's usually just an arm.

5:21 AM  
Blogger Oh, The Joys said...

That is hilarious.

... and for the record... not too much to ask at all. Geez.

11:27 AM  
Blogger Pendullum said...

My mom used to have to jump to get into pictures...
My dad was/isthe worst photographer in the world...
We do have some great shots of his thumb over the years... and our ceiling...

12:51 PM  
Blogger Virtualsprite said...

Oh, I'm so glad I'm not alone here and you all have the same problem! I'm the only one in the house who knows how to work the camera, so I'm never in the picture.

My sympathies, sister. But I agree with all who say that what's visible is certainly beautiful. Oh, and the gorgeous baby, too!

8:22 PM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

You know what? I actually try to keep my head out of pictures with WB - I often duck it right behind hers (which is, thankfully, on this count anyway, big).


9:02 AM  
Anonymous marsha said...

LOL!!!! I have a hundred pictures of me and my children just like that.

9:17 AM  
Anonymous krista said...

My husband ALWAYS does this too!

9:45 AM  
Anonymous Nancy said...

What PunditMom said -- I'm actually glad I'm never in pictures anymore, because I'd just as soon not be immortalized in my constantly tired state!

Although it was pretty bad at the beginning of this school year when the only picture I could find of the entire family was about a year and a half old -- before Rosie was even walking. (That's because I'm hardly ever in a picture.)

5:37 PM  
Blogger Jen said...

That is so funny......didnt anyone tell you its not about you anymore????/

7:04 AM  
Blogger Guinevere Meadow said...

You know, now that I'm in my 9th month of pregnancy, I'm actually looking forward to having the focus OFF of me! I've never liked being the center of attention, I've always been shy and reserved, so I am quite happy at the prospect of playing second fiddle for awhile! lol!

9:02 AM  
Blogger radioactive girl said...

That is really funny and also very very true! My mother in law would slam the door in our face because she would totally forget we were there once she had our baby in her hands. I'll keep that tucked away in my brain now so I won't do that to my own kids when they have theirs.

10:39 AM  
Blogger Catherine said...

Not to scoff at your missing eyes, but at least your gorgeous smile made the shot. My kids, aka photographers extraordinaire, are always focusing in on my abnormally long and pointy chin. No teeth. No lips. No eyes. Just chin. :(>

9:50 PM  
Blogger beth said...

Well you certainly have some lovely and very straight teeth...

11:19 AM  
Blogger Mommy off the Record said...

Ha! Two years of braces baby. Oh yeah.

11:48 AM  
Anonymous Michelle said...

yep know what you mean. my mum and dad are the same frigging way......oh hi sweetiepie..hugs and kisses.. Hello??? what about me???oye

9:48 PM  

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